Samuel Johnson, in the 16th century defined the attributes of the honeymoon in an eloquent manner:
“The first month after marriage, when there is nothing but tenderness and pleasure…”
The Oxford English Dictionary augments this lovely definition with a cynical reference to the inevitably changing nature of love:
“…comparing the mutual affection of newly-married persons to the changing moon which is no sooner full than it begins to wane; now, usually [referring to] the holiday spent together by a newly-married couple, before settling down at home.”
So, there you have it folks - the prediction is, your love will soon “wane” like the full moon, and you’ll eventually “settle down at home” like a pair of stooge pigeons.
Come on! You may have already lived together or this might be your first night together. Whatever the circumstances, your honeymoon in not just about the time you get as newlyweds to hide away from the world in a week of tenderness before it all fades away! The honeymoon begins and defines your life together! It’s the time where you get to shut out the world and focus on one thing: the art of love. What you do during your honeymoon is what you will use to guide your relationship for the next 50 years or more. It will keep your love life hot and full of surprises and excitement. Do not waste this time!
Consider every thing you do on your honeymoon to be life lessons or stepping-stones, ideas you can refer back to and remodel when the honeymoon seems to be waning.
Honeymoon Lesson number 1:
Ladies - pick out some sensual lingerie. Whatever your style, tigress, pink bunny or lovely and natural, this is essential. The lingerie sets the state of mind you want to be in during your honeymoon. Your lifelong honeymoon begins here with you stepping out of who you are in the day-to-day. There is no need to be shy or feel self conscious about trying something new. Remember the person you present tonight; you want your husband to remember this as a secret meeting – because later on when you’ve both been working 60 hour weeks, you’ll slip on this sensual personality and time will bring you back to the full moon.
Lesson number 2:
Gentlemen - so, you submitted to wearing a pink tie with your wedding suit and didn’t agree with the flowers on every table. Snap out of it and think long term: what will you do 6 months or a year from now to signal to your wife that you need some sensual R and R? Is music your thing? Use that expertise my friend. Even if you are not an incredible musician, you know your wife will love the gesture. Create a new song of your own or do a cover of your song. The hotel will take care of the champagne so don’t worry yourself over typical details like they do in the movies. Create your own unique and romantic contribution. Think years later, when you know you’ve seen your wife in her bathrobe one too many times – dig up the CD you made, and remember her tigress lingerie. Play the song for her and watch the tigress within return.
Lesson number 3:
You (both of you) must always, always have candles. Wherever you go, what ever you do, make sure you have natural, scented candles on hand. The lighting, the mood, the aromatherapy can go with you anywhere. And the memory of scent? Yes, it can bring you back to the most intimate moments you’ve shared together. Candles are a must on your honeymoon and for the rest of your lives together.
Lesson number 4:
Do the unexpected. Which is not to say to forget about the scented candles, the chocolates and the flowers. But you’ve probably done all that before together. How do you make your honeymoon memorable, and how can this lesson translate to the rest of your lives together? Plan on doing something that you would never have thought of doing on your honeymoon. Take him or her out to the beach with a bag stuffed with fireworks. Set them off against the night sky. Take your new spouse to a rowdy sports bar and get up on the stage and sing that karaoke song you’ve be practicing in secret for the last month. Go out to the peak of the hike for a picnic and pull out the cheesy poem you wrote about your loved one. Do the unexpected and you will always keep your relationship fresh.
Lesson number 5:
Learn the art of Massage. An invaluable tool. With or without oil. A foot massage, a calf massage, a back massage or a full body massage. It is so sensual, and, let’s face it, we won’t be getting any younger.
Lesson number 6:
The most important lesson you practice on your honeymoon for your Life-Long Honeymoon is what sets the stage for a happy and healthy marriage: talk to each other honestly and openly. What are your dreams? What do you love about each other? What is the sexiest fantasy you’ve ever had? What are your goals for this marriage? The heart and the mind are the most erogenous zones. Nourish them for a happy and constant full moon together. |
